How to Manage a Fussy Eater

If feeding your toddler becomes more like a military operation gone wrong than a healthy mealtime, it can really wear you thin. Hang in there, because fussy eating is actually very common and can be managed.

Understanding his dietary behavior
You might be one of the many parents who is worried that your child is not getting enough nutrition. Some parents even overfeed over the fear of that. Unfortunately, this is highly counter-productive for your toddler as it makes him associate mealtimes with something he hates to do.

The thing is, your child will actually take in enough calories if you allow him. While you are in charge of what he can eat, he has his own preference of when he should eat. No normal child will deliberately starve himself. Some days, he may even refuse his favorite foods or is even fearful of new food (Neophobia). This is normal as toddlers go through a period when they are very picky about certain foods.

Tips for managing a fussy eater

• Manage your expectations: Rather than insisting that he eats a full meal every meal, you can track what he eats over the entire week.
• Eat together: It’s better to share mealtimes with your toddler, especially if both you and your partner are working. He will treasure this time more and put up less resistance compared to one-way feeding.
• Smaller is better: A full meal may be overwhelming for your little toddler. By offering smaller quantities more often, he is more likely to complete the same meal.
• Praise good eating behavior: As with other behaviors you want to encourage, good eating behavior should not be taken for granted. Praise him whenever he finishes a portion of his meal.
• Keep it consistent: Knowing what to expect makes your toddler feel more assured, so keep the mealtimes routine. Be sure to factor in his nap time.
• Make him a participant: Get your toddler to help with the preparation. It can be as simple as getting the jar of jam or picking out what to eat during grocery shopping. Participation makes him feel more involved and inclined to eat.

Feed him next time
If he refuses to eat at one mealtime, it’s really okay. Rather than trying to convince him to eat, just wait for the next mealtime. Remember, your toddler is capable of eating enough.